that we tell ourselves it’s ok but it’s really not because you just sucked it up and put a band-aid over it because you didn’t want to feel soft or you couldn’t be soft in the moment and that band-aid is not waterproof, the best that band-aid ever did it, was to protect the inside and grow new skin over the wound.  These are the biggest regrets that we hold on to but it’s also one of the most dangerous; as they will stop you from forming healthy meaningful connections in present life. 

Let’s unpack that one right there, because moving forward, I desire healthy and sustainable relationships.  The loss, grief and nostalgia of these experiences often result in continuous thoughts about the past where I find myself replaying memories with that person and longing for what was lost and well these memories end up being nostalgic, which is in and of itself a complex emotional event yet a comforting place to dwell in hard times. 

Letting GO and Letting GOD journey begins by “letting go” is profound moment of transformation, if you are really his child and know that he is your Kingsman Redeemer, then I knew that 1.) He will renew your mind 2.) Give me strength 3.) Bring me home or give me a new assignment. Releasing the past attachments and know that those rejections gave me legs to build on. Why, because the Bible said, 1.) If I lay my life down, I can pick it back up 2.) Those that long suffer with God shall renew their strength, so 3.) No man can take my life. 4.) He didn’t give me the air I breathe. This process came to build me not destroy me because of MY BELIEF system. 

During this process I became self-aware, examination from the inside, trust me it’s a process,

What are those thoughts that are replaying in your head when you are alone or feeling lonely? Letting Go and Letting GOD says, 1.) acknowledge those emotions without JUDGMENT, only he can judge you and realize that you must break free of those patterns and release the thoughts (self-judgment) that do not serve your well-being (his child not son of man),

Mary Mary said it best, “Take these shackles off my feet so I can dance”, “I can praise him.”  All he wants is your praise and worship, “how can you praise and worship with the shackles”, girl, GET UP and take your own shackles off by releasing those thoughts (negative feelings of self) that the world throw on your back and have the nerve to forgot that they threw them there, cause when they crucified Big Brother Jesus on the cross, he asked our Father, Lord God to “Forgive them for they not know what they are saying”, cause sticks and stones may break my bones but words will never hurt! So you must “forgive” them, in prayer to our Father, turning back to the Master Creator, cause “they were part of a plan”, an unannounced revolution, that they knew about, because they “Rocked lil baby, don’t you cry” because they needed you stay asleep a little while longer, for there own selfish pleasures but GOD said through the whisper in the wind, if you just BELIEVE in me, he will supply all your needs, holding onto to hope for the things unseen, those things to manifest in his GLORY, REQUIRES you to treating yourself with kindness during the process, you see them band-aids have become embedded in your skin and some of them bitches, KARMA, gonna hurt real bad, but you hear me big girl BLACK AND GOLDEN FAIRY DUST, I know you remember that commercial if you my age, and NOBODY BOTHERS ME CALL USA-1000 and WELL FIGHT FOR YOU! Yes, I’m today years old, when that memory came back.

Release the worldly things (the former things) for GREATER is he that lives in you than he that LIVES in the world.  Greater lives within you, did you know that.  Releasing things of the world defines your path backwards, what does forward look like? When was the last time you allowed yourself to look forward? For I know that my mission is to transform things of the world not confirm to yesterday! Yesterday is gone, sweet Jesus, teach me to take one day at a time! Sweet Jesus, Lord for my Sake!

Who, what and where DEVELOPED your belief system? Is that belief system still applicable for post COVID, post loss of job, post loss of spouse, post loss of anything? Is that belief system applicable for where you are headed? Better yet, where are you headed?

Your beliefs tie you to a presumption or assumption about a person, place, thing or situation.  This is your test subject. 

Think backward; yes, you can do it! Attending school, an individual is “LIFE” structure, through lessons in the class, social interactions with their acceptable peer group, activities standards in which they participate in and then then graduate or drop out, so, everything that individual is “taught” creates the sentence (LIFE) structure, a complete sentence has a noun (person, place, thing, situation) verb(action) and an adjective (describes the noun). 

Tanya is healed.  Does “she” believe “HER”? She always believes Her, because my daddy said, Greater is in me than in the whole world; and walked like she talked it; in order to be a thang she BECAME that thang; through love of neighbor as she would want love for HERSELF; walk in another man’s shoes to find out “the truth” and abandon assumptions.  Carry each other’s burden, that’s picking up your cross, making the world a better place.

Reframing the view shall is the epidemy of growth and resilience.  Tenacity, now that is something totally playing field. The shift in perspective is empowering. That’s imagination, that’s dreaming the REAL AMERICAN DREAM OF DR MARTIN LUTHER KING. That’s a quality very few possess, determination and persistent, especially when climbing the mountain. I always wonder about Rev F.C. Barnes, “I’m coming up the rough side the mountain”, and Dr. King, “vision from the mountain top”, they got there by having the ability to hold on to hold together firmly. In today’s linguistic society, controlling of the media, calls it dogmatic, pertinacity. I’m use in a sentence for you to give this word life, because it is what the fibers on my spirit are constructed (my personal interstate connectivity, 95 to 295 to 395 to 495) of; Her tenacity, broad experience and deep understanding (I’ve always been told I’m too deep, you think too much but what can I say, that’s me, the “THINKER”) of people places and things makes HER an excellent choice for “Innovator of the Year”, never stop listening to your little girl inside, she will always lead you home.

Forgive yourself for missing whatever self imposed target you set for yourself or furthermore the invisible ceiling put over your head by the words you choose to create your beliefs (barriers, limitations) and frame your perspective into growth and resiliency, dropping the emotional baggage (heaviness) that those fear (self imposed grudges and resentment) that’s breeding your own suffering.  Commit if knowing hurt someone, ask for forgiveness with sincerity if someone hurt you forgive them in good faith by surrending your fate (thought) to the universe.  Lord Jesus, I don’t know what that was but I know it was you so whatever it was meant to be shall be kinda thought process.  Surrender your need to control the outcome and circumstances and do trust that fate and the universe what is best for you. Open up to what is to come next as life unfolds in it’s own way because trust me with or without you the universe will open a new path for you that you are meant to tread. 

The journey of moving on from the past climaxes in your present as you reach the current life of crossing the land of awareness, forgiveness and surrenderance.  Practice mindfulness, gratitude and self reflection to avoid slipping back into negative thought processes as we practice being fully present in the NOW.  Detaching from past and intentionally creating a space between you and the thoughts and emotion will allow you to observe them without being consumed by them.

Cultivate gratitude from your experiences even if they are challenging.  The shift takes regretful times to a space of gratitude and shows up as your gain and opens your path to present opportunities.  Find your inner peace by journaling and mediating.  You have found inner hell by sitting on the couch and letting those other thoughts run wild all this time but you can’t take a moment to create new spaces, there is room in there, because we all have room to expand as we breathe and these practices of journaling and mediation concentrate on breathing thus creating a positive place to reflect on your past and will deepen the understanding as you hear your inner voice clarifying making the self liberating process easier.  In essences ceasing to dwell on the past will provide self compassion, empowerment and spiritual growth.  Embracing the present moments will unlock the door to a life of vitality and purpose, accept the past and slowly let it go.  Live in the now so you can enjoy a more significant presence in life and achieve a peaceful existence.